Anger and more

 ·        ·         Anger and more.

Anger is an intense emotional state that results in negative behaviour. This emotion can become destructive if not controlled. Anger ranges from a minor fleeting annoyance to full-fledged rage. While it is completely normal to harbour anger, it is important to heal from the situation and let the anger go. Healing doesn't mean that the damage never existed. It means that the damage doesn't control your life anymore.
People often remain angry with the other person because of how they have interpreted the other person's actions or words.
Anger causes physiological and biological changes like a rise in blood pressure and energy levels,
A specific relationship, event or situation can make you angry. It's best that you learn to manage your anger before it takes control of you.
Unexpressed anger can lead to issues of passive-aggressive behaviour.

“What does anger look like?”
Yelling
arguing
Using bad/ curse words
Hitting
Breaking things
Fuming
Silence.


Life's like that

·         It's okay to have a bad day

·         Everybody makes mistakes

·         Nothing is perfect

·         Taking a break is perfectly okay

·         You are stronger than you think

·         It's okay to ask for help.

 

 

How to Manage Your Anger:

 

1.     Think and then speak – When you are angry, you may generally say something you regret. Collect your thoughts, and then speak. Take to speaking, only once you have calmed down. Express your concerns and allow the other person to do likewise.

2.    Exercise – When angry, resort to exercise to reduce stress levels. Take a long, brisk walk or indulge in any other physical activity.

3.    Look at solutions – Instead of focusing on the triggers, look for solutions to manage your anger. Some situations may just be beyond your control. You need to learn to walk away from them and accept that the situation cannot be changed.

4.    When angry, stick with ‘I’ – Criticism and blame do nothing to ease the situation. Use ‘I’ to describe the situation. Instead of saying, “You never help me with the household chores” say “I am upset that you never help me with the household chores.

5.    Don’t hold grudges – Forgiveness is a powerful tool to manage your anger. Make every effort to eliminate feelings of bitterness and resentment. Forgiveness brings healing and may even strengthen the relationship.

6.    Humour helps – Difficult as it may be, try and see the humour in the situation. To cool down, watch a comedy show, or read a funny book. Do anything that involves humour.

7.    Practice relaxation – Deep breathing exercises, listening to music, or journaling help you to manage your anger.

8.    Seek help – When you find yourself flying off the handle at the least provocation and it is becoming increasingly difficult for you to control your anger, consider seeking professional help.