Forgiveness: A gift of peace you offer yourself.   Forgiveness is a word often repeated and a virtue we’re encouraged to cultivate, but forgiveness doesn’t come easily, nor is it instant. What does forgiveness mean? Forgiveness is letting go of the hurt and pain that has been inflicted on us. It is the gift of peace that we offer to ourselves. We choose not to let the hurt and pain control us anymore. Forgiveness does not being okay with what happened or pretending that it doesn’t matter. It’s not about condoning or excusing the offence.  It’s perfectly okay to forgive someone and not speak to them. Setting boundaries is perfectly fine. Forgiveness can take years, or you suddenly find it our quite unexpectedly.   One fine day, you find that you can relate to what happened with no hard feelings. To forgive requires you to be strong and courageous to be able to let go of the past and look to building a better future. Two brothers were having differ...